Comments on: He likes me? But not thinner? http://amerrylife.com/2008/12/10/he-likes-me-but-not-thinner/ Tue, 22 May 2012 21:19:21 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Allison http://amerrylife.com/2008/12/10/he-likes-me-but-not-thinner/#comment-1079 Allison Fri, 12 Dec 2008 20:57:44 +0000 http://www.amerrylife.com/?p=314#comment-1079 When I got married, I was fat. Probably somewhere between 295 and 303 lbs. After about a year of being married, I decided I was tired of being really fat, so I started to do something about it. I changed my eating habits a bit and then joined a gym. I told my husband what I was doing, but didn't say he had to play along, or give me the green light, because I was doing this for me. What I've found, as I've been losing weight, that my husband really enjoys the smaller me. Does that mean he loved me less, or was less attracted to me when I was bigger? No. It just means he loves me as I am, in whatever state I am in. I say do whatever you feel you need to do. If your boy sticks around and supports you, fantastic. If not, then it's probably for the best. <abbr><em>Allison’s last blog post..<a href="http://doublechinned.blogspot.com/2008/12/amount-just-keeps-climbing.html" rel="nofollow">The amount just keeps climbing</a></abbr></em> When I got married, I was fat. Probably somewhere between 295 and 303 lbs. After about a year of being married, I decided I was tired of being really fat, so I started to do something about it. I changed my eating habits a bit and then joined a gym. I told my husband what I was doing, but didn’t say he had to play along, or give me the green light, because I was doing this for me.
What I’ve found, as I’ve been losing weight, that my husband really enjoys the smaller me. Does that mean he loved me less, or was less attracted to me when I was bigger? No. It just means he loves me as I am, in whatever state I am in.
I say do whatever you feel you need to do. If your boy sticks around and supports you, fantastic. If not, then it’s probably for the best.

Allison’s last blog post..The amount just keeps climbing

]]> By: Enrique Carrero http://amerrylife.com/2008/12/10/he-likes-me-but-not-thinner/#comment-1077 Enrique Carrero Fri, 12 Dec 2008 17:08:51 +0000 http://www.amerrylife.com/?p=314#comment-1077 If he doesnt like you the way you are, he'll never love you for real. http://www.dietworldfacts.info If he doesnt like you the way you are, he’ll never love you for real.

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]]> By: Kelly Hensley http://amerrylife.com/2008/12/10/he-likes-me-but-not-thinner/#comment-1075 Kelly Hensley Fri, 12 Dec 2008 04:29:55 +0000 http://www.amerrylife.com/?p=314#comment-1075 If he really likes you he'll like you super voluminous and regular voluminous! Do what you gotta do! He might also be jealous of the time your training takes away from him. remind him that you are a happier and more fun person to be around b/c you feel good about yourself. <abbr><em>Kelly Hensley’s last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/blogspot/CMkE/~3/478464911/no-news-is-bad-news.html" rel="nofollow">No News Is Bad News</a></abbr></em> If he really likes you he’ll like you super voluminous and regular voluminous! Do what you gotta do! He might also be jealous of the time your training takes away from him. remind him that you are a happier and more fun person to be around b/c you feel good about yourself.

Kelly Hensley’s last blog post..No News Is Bad News

]]> By: Kenz http://amerrylife.com/2008/12/10/he-likes-me-but-not-thinner/#comment-1067 Kenz Thu, 11 Dec 2008 03:13:03 +0000 http://www.amerrylife.com/?p=314#comment-1067 Hey there - I'm a new reader so thought I'd say hello! I too have a boy who loves me how I am, which is a great thing. There's two sides to this though - if the boy likes you how you are and is accepting and wants you to feel no pressure what so ever to lose weight for him, that's the perfect response. He may just want you to feel completely comfortable that he isn't with you *hoping* you'll change. He just wants you to feel confident and not NEED to change for him. On the other side, if he strictly DOES NOT want you to change... then that's pretty cruddy. You can change your hair colour, your taste in clothes, and your weight whenever you want to. He shouldn't like you in just the package you come in now, but whatever package you choose. And if you choose to want to be smaller, then he should support that. I think he probably thinks he's doing the right thing, and I'm sure if you lost some weight that you wanted to and were happy and confident (and wore some new sexy undies) he's hardly going to be complaining :) Perhaps he's worried that you don't just want to lose a bit, maybe he is imagining you as a stick figure and is put off by that idea. Some guys don't understand the grey area in between 'skinny' and 'fat' If he really is adamant on not wanting you to lose... maybe he has issues of his own. Is he insecure and thinks he'll have to be fighting off other men with sticks? Anyway. Just a few thoughts :D bye! Hey there – I’m a new reader so thought I’d say hello! I too have a boy who loves me how I am, which is a great thing.

There’s two sides to this though – if the boy likes you how you are and is accepting and wants you to feel no pressure what so ever to lose weight for him, that’s the perfect response. He may just want you to feel completely comfortable that he isn’t with you *hoping* you’ll change. He just wants you to feel confident and not NEED to change for him.

On the other side, if he strictly DOES NOT want you to change… then that’s pretty cruddy. You can change your hair colour, your taste in clothes, and your weight whenever you want to. He shouldn’t like you in just the package you come in now, but whatever package you choose. And if you choose to want to be smaller, then he should support that.

I think he probably thinks he’s doing the right thing, and I’m sure if you lost some weight that you wanted to and were happy and confident (and wore some new sexy undies) he’s hardly going to be complaining :)

Perhaps he’s worried that you don’t just want to lose a bit, maybe he is imagining you as a stick figure and is put off by that idea. Some guys don’t understand the grey area in between ‘skinny’ and ‘fat’

If he really is adamant on not wanting you to lose… maybe he has issues of his own. Is he insecure and thinks he’ll have to be fighting off other men with sticks?

Anyway. Just a few thoughts :D bye!

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