Ok, Maybe You CAN Love A Fat Girl

Update: This boyfriend became my family because on October 15, 2011 we got married! Check our our wedding recaps!

Today is my 3 month anniversary with my boyfriend. :)

But before I talk about that I want to explain a few things of how this all came to be.

You see, several months ago I wrote a post titled, “Because You Can’t Love A Fat Girl.”  This post was something that I wrote at a low moment, when even though I was feeling good about myself and loved my body, I still wondered why I couldn’t find love.  I have a limited dating past, only going out with a few guys, and when each relationship came to an end I would always question if it was because I was fat and unworthy.  Even though I knew the relationships weren’t meant to be for a million other big reasons, I still wondered if it wasn’t because we were incompatible but instead if it was because I was overweight.  It wasn’t something I felt all the time, but I felt it often enough to feel the need to write about it. And I did.

It turned out that post was one of the best things I’ve done with my blog.

That post sparked a comment that kind of began my current relationship.  After I wrote that Kepa, who also goes by FLG and has been interviewed on my blog before, sent me a message on Twitter.   He said something along the lines of “if I was there, I would ask you out.”  I remember being quite shocked by the message when I read it.  We had been friends for quite a while and were even becoming really good friends.  (He even sent me a birthday present this year!) But that message he sent me changed the way I thought about him, which as it turns out was exactly what he wanted.

We talked a lot on twitter and through email and I learned a lot about him – including the fact that he had liked me for around eight months or so.  He sent me a picture that had the <3 sign we had been using. We kept talking and exchanging videos and voice messages with each other.  And then on Sept 15 he called me and in a slightly awkward conversation that began about what we would want if we were in the same place and ended in him asking me to be his girlfriend.  Awww.

That was three months ago.  Since then he wrote me a song, sent me flowers on our one and two month anniversary, and been the best boyfriend I’ve ever had.  It’s quite funny to think that my best boyfriend is one that I haven’t even technically met yet.  But he has provided me with the most support and love and joy that I’ve ever received from another person.  And for that I am very grateful.

So, it turns out that you can love a fat girl.

I’ve learned that lesson quite well, as I’ve found someone who loves me more than I thought possible in a short time span.  Apparently you can find love in the strangest of places and when you aren’t looking for it at all.  I’m sorry I never listened to that advice before, but glad I was still lucky enough to find out that it’s true.   And I’m gateful to realize that weight isn’t something that matters in a relationship, unless you let it.  Like I’ve said before, it’s usually just all in your head.

(If you want to read the post Kepa wrote a while ago about his side of the story, go read it here.)

But if you thought my life has been interesting in the past, stick around because it is about to get a lot more interesting.  In exactly one  month I will be flying to New Zealand (!!!!!!) to spend a month with Kepa.  That’s right,  I’m going to NEW ZEALAND!! I haven’t talked about it much before because it didn’t seem real when I bought my ticket months ago.  And now it is a month away and I am officially excited about it for a million and five reasons.  But mostly because I’m going to go be with the one that I love.

If you are new to my blog or haven’t subscribed yet, I suggest that you do.  Because this is going to be an adventure you won’t want to miss.  I sure can’t wait for it. :)

Tagged as: fat girl thoughts, Kepa, love, New Zealand, travel