I never blogged about the first Marie Claire controversy or the second, because it never felt like something I needed to get into. But I have to say, something from the last opinion piece – Should Fatties Get a Room? (Even on TV?) – has been haunting me ever since I read it.
So anyway, yes, I think I’d be grossed out if I had to watch two characters with rolls and rolls of fat kissing each other … because I’d be grossed out if I had to watch them doing anything. To be brutally honest, even in real life, I find it aesthetically displeasing to watch a very, very fat person simply walk across a room
whats a post about fat people without a headless fatty shot?
The article is full of a lot more derogatory and hurtful comments toward fat people and her advice on diet and exercise is laughable in the midst of fat-hate. She ended the “article” asking if she was an insensitive jerk and people responded by letting her know she was – and more. She was called “fattist”, “ignorant,” “cruel,” “uneducated,”… you get the point. People let her know that was she was saying was not okay.
And a lot of people brought up the point that the author was a former anorexic. In the comments even she acknowledged that her worldview as a former anorexic was to blame for her being so freaked out by obesity.
But is it just her?
Is she the only one that feels this way?
Is she the only one that is disgusted by fat people? Or is it more people? Is it… most people?
I’ve been told more than once in my life that I’m disgusting. This wasn’t for any reason other than my obesity. I know that people have thought I was disgusting for being obese. I have a feeling more people thought that than thought I was beautiful, although I never really thought about how many people I must have grossed out just be walking across a room.
One could say that the article was just one woman with a history of an eating disorder hating on fat people. But I have a feeling this hatred for fat people is more common than we all want to believe.
What worries me even more than the average skinny person hating on the fatties is the high level of self-hatred most obese people have. I know that at my heaviest weight I was horribly depressed but also so very mad at myself and my body. Quite frankly, I was disgusted by myself (how can you not be with years of being told you are fat/disgusting/blahblablah?). It took me a couple years to figure out that my body was a gift and a good thing and it was beautiful and capable even at an obese weight. But before that happened? I hated my fat self. And what’s worse is that I hated other fat people. My self-disgust was something that I projected onto other people by showing my dislike for them.
I hate to admit that I ever felt that way, but at the same time, I think it’s pretty common.
In our culture thin is good, fat is bad. When you are fat you are supposed to hate yourself so much you want to change. This loathing should be self-directed but it tends to spill over. People tend to have the bad habit of openly hating in others what they hate most about themselves. Including being obese. I’m glad that I finally came around to the realization that wasn’t something worth thinking and that everyone is beautiful and deserves compassion instead of disgust. Maybe one day we will all think that, hopefully starting with ourselves.
For different reasons, it seems that many people are disgusted by fat people. Obese people because they hate that characteristic about themselves. Slim people because they don’t want to become obese. Maybe the only difference in the situation with Marie Claire is that the write admitted it (in a horrible way).
I don’t have grand conclusion to this blog post. I’ve just been haunted by these thoughts lately and wanted to get them off my chest.
What do you think about the article? About the hatred for obesity in our culture (and ourselves)? Are you disgusted by fat people?