Bouncing around on Tumblr is this image:
Interesting. It refers mostly to Operation Beautiful, which I’ve supported since it started. I think there is a lot of negative self-talk that goes on in women’s minds that is hardly ever addressed so the idea behind the movement is a positive thing especially for younger girls who are developing their self-esteem. But this cartoon made me think twice about the references to weight and fat in those positive post-it notes.
It does have a point.
I’ve always hated when I say “I’m fat” and someone tries to convince me otherwise. “Oh, you aren’t fat!” I never know what to say to those people because I’m not insulting myself – I literally am fat. Does refuting an obvious fact makes someone feel better? For me it just feels awkward. I am fat. I am okay with that. I still want to be healthier so I can live a long life and have lots of babies, but being fat isn’t the end of the world for me. I’m still awesome. I wear bikinis sometimes. I wear cute clothes (when I can afford them). I’m not gross. People find me upbeat and friendly and enjoy being around me. Fat in itself isn’t negative. It’s not an insult and we should stop using it like an insult (I feel the same way about the word gay).
Fat is a descriptive word, not a bad word.
One of my favorite responses on tumblr said this: “Reject the idea that one must be beautiful to have self-worth; that women are not interesting if they are not attractive and pretty. Call it ‘no diet talk’ instead of ‘no fat talk’.”
Agreed. Diet talk needs to end. It’s the constant barrage of diet talk that has ruined a lot of women’s lives and self-esteem. Let’s end that please.
What are your thoughts on the word fat? Is it a dirty or negative word for you?