Happy Things

Mimi, my comment vixen as I like to think of her, brought up some interesting points on my last post about how my blog was boring to her and she had lost interest. She suggested maybe I just give up and journal privately or do something else. She had some great points and hit on something I’ve thought about myself.

What is the point of this blog? Where is it going? What am I writing about? What am I passionate about now?

Honestly, I don’t quite know. I like to think of myself as a pursuer of passions but lately I haven’t felt passion for much of anything. I’ve been a bit unsure of what to do with myself and where I want my life to go.  Last year was a ridiculous year with so many huge changes in such a short time that I simple had to hang on and see where I ended up. Now that I’m in a relatively stable place I think, “So now what?”

You might want to know where the blog is going. Me too. I don’t know.

When I originally started this blog I gave it the name “A Merry Life” so I could talk about anything in my life that made me happy. I was more of a 20-something wanna be traveler when I started than I was a weight loss blogger. I simple ended up talking about weight loss so much because for a while this was weight loss because it was something I needed and really wanted.  That ended up growing my blog and finding an audience but it also pigeonholed me into thinking and talking about weight loss and food more than was really healthy for me.

So now I’m left with the process of figuring out what I want to blog about, if anything.

Here are a few things I’m enjoying right now and might share more about.

  • Style. I’ll admit for the majority of my life I didn’t really have a style and it’s something I still fight against. There is part of my brain that insists because I’m fat I should hide myself away in hoodies and jeans and become invisible. I hate this so I’ve forced myself to start paying attention and dressing better. I’ve got a lot to learn about what looks good but I find it interesting to develop a personal style which may or may not involve a lot of ModCloth outfit inspiration.
  • Travel. Like I mentioned, I started this blog as a travel blog back when I got home from studying abroad in college. I wanted to share more of my travel tales and photography and bits of my life.
  • Memphis. Y’all, I really dig my adopted home city (my first blog was originally a Memphis photo blog!). There are a lot of great things here and even more developing under the radar. It’s becoming one of the types of cities I really love being in with a creative class, tons of bike lanes, parks, and a whole lot of people that want to make the city better.
  • Other things! Juju, adventures, new restaurants, gym classes, local 5ks, self-care, good books, crafts, etc.

So basically, just things in my life that make me happy. Which is what this has always been about. And always will be. Maybe it’s narcisstic and maybe it should just be a private journal, but I still really enjoy sharing things I like with others.  Maybe no one will read, but that’s okay. I’ll still be writing randomly for a while.

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  1. LB says

    I’m a long time reader, first time commenter but I’ve always found your blog more interesting than others thanks to your voice and self-examination. I am happy to read no matter what you cover.

    Also, I recently moved to Oxford MS so selfishly I would love to hear more about Memphis. We just had Ethiopian up there two weekends ago and it was heavenly!

    • says

      Oh cool!! I love Ethiopian. It’s something I haven’t blogged about either. I eat at a lot of local restaurants though so I’ll share more.

      ps – I’d love to meet you if you come to Memphis again! :)

  2. says

    Hi Mary,
    Another long time reader and I love reading your blog. I like the randomness of people’s lives and seeing what makes people happy, so am all for you spending so time (or forever) writing about things that make you happy and you want to share.
    As long as it interests you, who cares what anyone, even me, thinks!
    Go for it and be happy :)

  3. Julie says

    I know you probably didn’t get upset about Mimi’s comment on your previous post. But, just want to point out that her comment says a lot more about her than what it says about your blog. She thinks a blog should be a certain way or it won’t get readers…this logic mostly assumes you are writing for your readers. My assumption is that you are writing for you, and readers are just a bonus. So I would say continue writing about the things you like. No one likes to read a blog whose content feels forced anyway.

    • says

      I know Mimi’s advice comes from a good place and she has been around for a while. I think her tone can sometimes sound worse than it is intended but that happens online.

      Readers are a bonus and I appreciate all of you guys. I do hate to bore you, but alas, my life these days is pretty boring! :)

  4. Kelly says

    I’m also a long time reader (though I’m sometimes hit or miss when things get hectic) – but the thing is, as much as I like reading your thoughts and feelings, as much as your blog is helpful to me and to others – it’s not entirely about me (or them). It’s about you. And I think as long as YOU benefit from it – then you go, girl!

  5. Vanessa says

    I’m a longtime reader too and love your blog. I’ve always assumed, like Julie has said, that you write mostly for yourself and it attracts readers who are interested in similar things and like hearing about what you’re up too. I would definitely miss you if you stopped blogging!

  6. says

    Hey! I couldn’t respond back to your comment, but there is a Facebook page for Memphis bloggers. That’s how I met up with everyone. Just look for ‘Memphis Bloggers’.

  7. Reve says

    I’ve been reading for a few years. I don’t usually read comments, but I checked back to the last post, and I somewhat agree with Mimi. I’m not exactly bored, but I prefer blogs with more focus. All of the topics you have listed above sound great. I am especially interested to learn more about Memphis. I also really enjoy travel/photography blogs.

    That being said, I wouldn’t have said anything because it is your blog. Also, I follow a lot of blogs, and this transitional aimlessness happens often as people grow and change, so you are not alone.

  8. says

    All blogs are narcissistic though aren’t they? I know mine is!
    I have really enjoyed the short sharp snappy posts about random things that you love or cool things you’re doing or done.

    Silly Mimi. The Maori word for pee, sounds like Mimi. Makes me laugh.

  9. says

    It’s your blog, no one’s forcing us to read it. Write what you want. Mine has absolutely no focus whatsoever because that’s the way my brain works. People change, so why shouldn’t their blogs?

  10. says

    I am new to your blog, but I have to agree. This is your space, fill it with what makes you happy. Others can like it or not. Seems to me more people like than not…

  11. says

    Blogs seem to evolve, like people changing at various stages of life. Mine started out as a statement about the unfairness of being unemployed later in a career. It somehow changed into what became much more important – health. What’s I write about now reflects where I am at this moment – not the least bit happy about getting older. And fighting to stay healthy.

  12. Chelsea says

    Hey! I started reading your blog a few months back, and just wanted to say I really enjoy it! If some (slightly rude) people don’t want to read it–then don’t! I really enjoy hearing about your life because it speaks to me as a young woman who is also trying new things and figuring life out. We don’t just pop out of the womb with a clear cut direction, passion and purpose, we have to search and work hard for it. Personally, I love hearing about your adventure to figure out this nonsense we call life :)

  13. Angelika says

    You know I have read for a LONG time and I love you and Juju. I will say it takes a “special” kind of somebody to make a comment about how a blog is “boring.” Um – I am sorry – is she on some sort of probabtion where she is being FORCED, as punishment, to read blogs she finds boring? NO? What? That is not a thing? Then she needs to shut it and find somewhere else to go spread her negativity.

    You are true to yourself. You just keep on, keeping on!

  14. says

    Another long time reader here, and I just wanted to say that I’ve always loved your blog! Especially because I find you’re more honest than maybe other bloggers. I think maybe people got caught up with certain personal aspects of your blog that you don’t write about anymore. Anyways, keep doing whatever makes you happy!

  15. says

    I love your blog for this very reason, that is has no typical “this is what I blog about post” (in the way that healthy living bloggers post about their meals three times a day). I’ve always seen your blog as a “this is me, chasing my happiness,” and that is really inspiring, no matter how you’re chasing it or where it’s taking you. :)

  16. says

    You write about anything your heart desires! Change it up. Stay the same. If people don’t want to read, they won’t. It’s YOUR outlet, and that’s all that matters! :-)