Hello everyone! This post from my mom is the final post in a series about bariatic surgery, the surgery my mom’s husband has decided to undertake to reclaim his health and life. These posts might be helpful to anyone considering this type of surgery or just curious about the surgery and how it affects those around you. You can see the first posts here: Bariatric Surgery Series: Beginning The Journey and Bariatric Surgery Series: Preparing for Weight Loss Surgery, and Bariatric Surgery Series: Eating For Weight Loss Surgery.
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Bariatric Surgery Series: The Final Chapter
Many of you read my previous posts about the Bariatric surgery that my husband was planning to do in December. Since the day we went to the surgery seminar, he has started to lose weight on his own to show that he could do the surgery and stick with a low calorie diet. He has done very well on his own and has lost over 72 lbs, this is without the surgery.
We also have talked to several people that have had the surgery, one in particular, the lady from our church that I had previously mentioned to you. She is doing very poorly and if she continues to lose weight I am just not sure what is going to happen to her. This is and was a great concern for me and my husband, as he does have a tendency to go off his diet sometimes, so much so that I have resorted to locking up the refrigerator at night so he does not sleep walk and eat. This has been one of his major problems and I decided to take matters into my own hands to deal with it.
If you have this kind of surgery you are unable to eat a great amount of food and if you do it will just cause you complications. My friend at church is suffering, she was told either lose weight or die and so she decided to do the surgery, basically what my husband was told, but in her case the surgery did not go so well. We all know that any surgery has its possible side effects and dangers; we just decide which is the more dangerous. I pray for my friend and believe she can come through this, but believe me I see her and I am shocked, and I know it will be an uphill battle for her the rest of her life.
We have also talked to one man who’s wife had the surgery and her stomach ruptured after eating too much and she passed away, this is very uncommon for this surgery but it did get my husband to thinking how easy it could be to put himself in that position. He decided to give up so many foods and stick to his own low calorie diet, of course with my help cooking the correct way for him.
Today my husband is going to the gym four times a week and sticking to a diet of chicken and fish, vegetables, and salads. We eat out very rarely and if we do he gets grilled fish or chicken and salad. It may not be the most desired diet but it works for him, so I try to be understanding and if I want something he can’t have I usually go away from home to eat it, like a hamburger or French fries, these are things I love but know he cannot have because he is dedicated to losing at least 150 lbs. He has a ways to go but with determination and a little assistance I believe he is going to make it, and until he does he feels so much better about himself and he brags about each size shirt and pants he goes down to, it is a blessing to have him happy and active again.
May God bless you with your decision about surgery, we prayed about our decision and I do believe for my husband it was the correct decision for us to have made. Thank you for reading my posts and I do wish all of you a blessed New Year and the best if you decide to go on with the surgery, as I have said it is a personal decision and one that will impact your life so make it wisely.