Generally speaking, jealousy is a bad thing. It ruins relationships, creates self-loathing, and hurts the person that harbors it. There is very little good that comes from most jealousy.
But sometimes you need to be a little jealous to succeed.
Sometimes you need to have role models that you look up to with a bit of jealousy. You need those people (or companies if you are talking business, which we aren’t) to set the bar. You need them to succeed to show you that it is possible to reach certain levels of success. You need them to exist so you can be jealous enough of their success that you reach out and grab your own.
Jealousy can be a positive thing if it spurs you toward action. If your jealousy toward someone spurs you not to hate your current situation but to change it and move closer toward success, then it is a good thing.
And let me tell you a little secret… I am jealous. I am completely and totally jealous.
Who am I jealous of? The successful losers. I’m jealous of Roni, FLG, Diane, Jen, Cammy and other successful weight loss and fitness bloggers. I’m jealous that they are healthier and have lost most if not all of the weight they wanted to lose. They have reached their goals and I’m jealous. I’ve been trying for a while and have managed to land further away from my goals. So I’m jealous of all the people that have already hit their goal.
But my jealousy isn’t negative. It doesn’t make me feel bad about myself or hate these guys. It just makes me want to succeed even more. I want to join their ranks and say that I reached my goal. I want to tell people they can lose weight and live the life they want and show them it is possible through my own life. My jealousy spurs me to action. It drags me to the gym and makes me reach out for help when I struggle. The jealousy is just one of many motives behind my actions but it is there. It is there pushing me on toward success.
TOMORROW IS MY LAST DAY AT WORK! OMG! AH! HURRAY! OH NO!
I’m super excited. Now all I gotta do is move and find a new job. Can I be jealous of people with jobs? That is very “in” right now, considering the current rate of unemployment in the United States. Still… very exciting!