This morning I am bursting with pride and love for someone I don’t even know.
I’ve never met him, never talked to him on the phone, never seen him except for a few pictures online. But I’ve been reading his blog for over a year and I feel like I know him. I think of him in terms of being a friend that I just haven’t met yet.
Yesterday he posted a blog post about an issue that is very important to him and hard for some people to accept. He put himself out there entirely and basically said, “This is who I really am guys. You can accept it and keep reading, or you can leave.”
How brave is that?
How courageous is it to lay it all out there? To know that some people won’t like you and do it anyway. To know that some people won’t approve and do it anyway. To know that some people will decide that they are better off without you and leave… yet do it anyway.
Not all of us have big things we hide from others. Most of us just have little secrets. We have little things we hide from others, little things we change about ourselves, or omit when we are with others. We want to please others so badly that we change these little things so we will be more to their liking. We trick ourselves by thinking, “Oh these are just little things I am changing! They aren’t important and this person will like me better!”
So we slowly hide and change ourselves to fit an image we think others should have of us. We give ourselves up to please other people. It’s wrong. It’s painful. We chip away at ourselves for no good reason.
Some people are brave enough to stop it. They decide enough is enough and they will be who they are no matter what.
I know I want to be like that. I am becoming more and more like that every day. I am becoming unapologetically myself, because I realize there is no one else who needs to be pleased besides me. If I am not happy with myself then who cares if other people are?
My hope is that all of you learn this same lesson: BE YOURSELF NO MATTER WHAT!
No matter what it is about you that you think others won’t like. Own your personality, traits, lifestyle, plans, etc. Be yourself without wondering if other people will think it is okay or not. As long as you are happing and being unapologetically yourself your friends will love you. Those people that don’t like it? Their opinion really doesn’t matter.