I put off reading The Secret for a long time, probably because I avoided any book Oprah recommended. But my roommate decided she wanted to read it so I said I would too. I figured this book offering the secret to life could potentially be something interesting for me and you both. So I set about reading it yesterday and finished it this morning (it’s a pretty small book with lots of quotes).
Basically The Secret says The Secret is the law of attraction. It says that this law is a law of the universe and has been around since the beginning of time and always will be. It says a lot of other grand things about the law, of The Secret, most of which clashes with my worldview. Some of the things said in the book are too new-agey for me, and a lot of times the book felt tacky. Why call it The Secret instead of just saying the law of attraction? Oh yes, to sell more books. Right, carry on and beat that to death please.
But all the secret is is the law of attraction. That means basically that you are like a magnet and you attract back to you whatever you put out there in the world. It goes in depth about how your thoughts literally create what is and will happen in your life. They take that line of reasoning too far in my opinion, especially using it to say that horrible events where many people die are allowed to happen because the people killed are on some sort of negative thought frequency. The Secret also isn’t the first book about the law of attraction and you can find a lot more if you just google the term.
Basically they consider your thoughts to attract more of the same, whether you are thinking good or bad things. But the idea is less specific thoughts and more about how you are feeling. How you are feeling is supposed to be indicative of how you are thinking, a feedback mechanism of sorts. This means you are supposed to feel good! All! The! Time! Because if you feel good obviously more good things will happen to you.
The three main points to the law of attraction (and getting absolutely everything you want):
- Know what you want and ask the universe for it.
- Feel and behave as if the object of your desire is on its way.
- Be open to receiving it.
And then it happens. Easy as that.
Reading the book I spent half my time thinking “that’s a great point!” and the other half thinking “bullshit!” For instance, in the section where they use weight loss as an example I had moments where I was thinking that what was in the book was smart, like this section:
You must feel good. You must feel good about you. This is important because you cannot attract your perfect weight if you feel bad about your body now. If you feel bad about your body that is a powerful feeling and you will continue to attract feeling bad about your body. You will never change your body if you ar critical of it and find fault with it, and in fact you will attract more weight to you. Praise and bless every square inch of your body. Think about all the perfect things about you. As you think perfect thoughts and feel good about you, you are on the frequency of your perfect weight, and you are summoning perfection.
The definition of the perfect weight is the weight that feels good for you. No one else’s opinion counts. It is the weight that feels good for you.
I actually thought those were quite good points. But then of course it was preceeded and followed by these points where I just had to think it was complete crap.
The end of the story about my own weight is that I now maintain my perfect weight of 116 pounds and I can eat whatever I want. So focus on your perfect weight!
Yes, because losing weight is just as easy as thinking about it and it’s done. Right. Moving on. But this is the kind of thing I struggle with during the whole book. A few thoughts would be something I believed and found to be interesting but they were immediately followed by something I found to be stupid.
I don’t mean to sound cynical because I actually fully believe in the law of attraction and loved quite a few of the major points in this book. I believe I connected with the ideas because I’ve seen them at work in my own life. It’s almost scary how things have worked out in my life with me thinking about something and drawing it to me eventually. Personally there are a number of occasions where this has happened – the prolonged desire and thoughts about something I want have drawn it into my life. If I wanted I could explain those occasions and things in a number of other ways, but I honestly think the law of attraction fits best. The happier I’ve become and the more good thoughts I’ve had about things, the more good has come to me. That I can say with certainty.
I also love the section in the book about gratitude. I’m not going to say “Thank you” a hundred times each morning like they mention doing, but I do think gratitude is a powerful thing that we should utilize more often. In the book they say it’s the absolute way to bring more into your life. And that is so true! Sit down and make a list of things you are grateful for. Once you start feeling gratitude you feel more and more of it. When I make my own list I could keep going and going. Feeling grateful for one thing leads to feeling grateful for more things that you already have.
The book continues to break down The Secret into The Secret for Wealth, The Secret for Relationships, The Secret for Health, The Secret to the World, The Secret to You, and The Secret to Life. I won’t break those sections down any further than that. If you want to buy the book you can read them and find out how the law of attraction applies specifically to them.
Here’s a short summary of points I liked and disliked
- Focuses too much on YOU as if you are the center of the world
- Deals only in absolutes which are wrong in some cases
- Encourages feeling good to the exclusion of anything else
- Encourages positive thinking and gratitude (good things!)
- Encourages feeling good (we often forget we should!)
- Encourages you to embrace and enjoy life (as it should be!)
And that’s about it for my review of The Secret. I hope you enjoyed it because I really enjoyed doing it! I should do book reviews more often! And if you are interested in buying it and reading it for yourself amazon has cheap copies or you can stop by your local library for a free copy.
Have you read The Secret? What were your thoughts?