Right now I’m on a huge journey to change my life. I hit a wall after having a baby and I hit it hard. The resulting panic attacks, physical symptoms and resulting breakdown were a wake up call that things needed to change. I could’t live every day with increasing stress because in the end it just wore me down to the point that I could not cope.
I decided to fix my life by focusing on detoxing and decluttering to live a simpler, less stressful life. Of course this seemed overwhelming to do all at once, so I decided to focus on a three different areas.
Decluttering Physical Space
I’m cleaning up the spaces I’m in by removing physical clutter. I’ve tackled the spaces where I’m in the most like my car, my living room, my office. Removing the overwhelming amount of clutter that has piled up is helping me already. Not having to see piles and piles of things removes a lot of mental clutter and chatter from my brain.
If you’ve never tried to declutter a room before, you should try it! You feel instantly better and the lessened amount of stuff allows you more mental bandwidth.
Like Jen Hatmaker has said, “Handle the piles so they stop stealing your peace.”
Those little piles of laundry or dishes or papers you need to get to eventually sit there and nag at your mind every time you pass them. They steal your mental peace with their existence. You might not want to handle the piles of clutter but they are stealing your peace by their mere existence. Handle them, get rid of them, and enjoy the resulting space and peace in your life.
That’s the first area I’m tackling.
Decluttering Online Activities
I spend way too much time online and too much of that time is spent looking at things that don’t make me better. They make me sad or jealous or any number of negative emotions. These things constantly send their messages my way each time I pick up my phone and it’s not healthy. Allowing so much online to affect me daily leads to consequences in my mind and my real life, so I’m cutting out the clutter.
I’ve focused on a few different areas :
- unsubscribing from email lists trying to sell me stuff
- unsubscribing from PR lists that are pushing ideas onto me (and spamming my email)
- unfollowing instagram accounts that make me feel bad or jealous
- muting accounts of people I know in real life but see way too much of online when we aren’t really close
- unfollowing youtube channels i watch that make me feel
- refraining from reading snark or “hate reads”
- removing myself from online mom groups that were catty or fed into fear based thinking
- setting time limits for myself for screen time
There are a lot of little ways what you do on your phone or computer can affect you. I realized that I was spending way too much time scrolling through content that wasn’t making me better. I don’t need to waste my precious time in this life encountering these things… so I cut them out.
Detoxing & Decluttering My Mind
My brain was a very negative place to be in the last few months. It was both negative and scary. I felt like I couldn’t get back to the place where I appreciated the small pleasures in life and could only obsess over the negatives and the fear that I felt. This isn’t a healthy way to live at all so I had to take charge by detoxing my brain.
One big step I took in this arena was going to therapy. I know therapy isn’t for everyone but many of the traumas and thought patterns that have been holding me back are so deeply ingrained I need a professional to help walk me through the recovery. I know this process will take a long time but I’m thrilled to be moving toward a healthier mental place.
Other things I’ve done to detox my mind include working on positive self-talk, working on removing cognitive distortions, and increasing the positive things I listen to and read each day. I listen to more positive podcasts and music during the day, I listen to meditations and focus myself back onto things that are both positive and true.
I’m also doing some physical detoxing through eating better, removing bad foods, and exercising more. I’ve started doing yoga at the recommendation of my therapist and it’s been quite nice to do each week.
Why I’m Sharing This
I wanted to share this because I know how hard it is to be in a place where everything seems scary and hard.
Allowing yourself to be subjected to physical and mental clutter and negativity is something we can all be aware of and change. Doing these things might not feel like huge steps but they can help you clear the path for the real work that leads you to a better place.