I walk in and look around at all the people waiting to hear my healthy you challenge update. Thanks for coming, but we need to discuss something first.

“Ok guys, I’m gaining weight.  Who is sabotaging my weight loss efforts?”

Keeps looking around.  Eyes land on my blog readers.  They are the ones I talk to every day about my weight and healthy living after all.  It must be them secretly sabotaging my efforts.

“It’s not us!  We give you nothing but unconditional love, support, and encouragement.  We are always here for you to help you on your weight loss journey.”

Fine. It must be someone else.

Aha!  Its the Weight Watchers people.  They promised weight loss and thats something that has not yet been seen.

“Look Mary, it might not be working out for you, but don’t blame us.  We can’t help it if you keep missing weekend meetings.  We didn’t choose that time for you and we definitely are not sabotaging you.  We are trying to help you!”

Ok then.

After looking around for another minute her eyes stop on my family. Of course its them, who else would it be?

“No, no, no.  Its not us.  Not this time.  I know I have let them screw up your attempts before and I have helped sometimes too.  But not this time.  We have been buying you healthy food and I’ve been cooking you good meals.  This isn’t our fault.”

Well, thats normally who sabotages my weight loss efforts.  Must be the so-called friends then.

“We aren’t sabotaging your weight loss.  Sometimes we put you in situation that are not the best, but its not like there aren’t healthy options available in addition to the bad ones.  You are the one that orders the unhealthy food and drinks.  We were cool with your decision to skip alcohol or choose a salad.  We don’t force you to do anything, we just want you to be with us.”

Well, ok, believable.  But still, someone must be behind my failure to lose weight.

I keep looking around but can’t figure it out.  Finally someone explains it to me.

“No one is sabotaging you Mary.  We are all people who love and support your efforts.  We want you to lose weight.  We want you to be healthy.  The only person who doesn’t think you can do this is you.  You are the only person sabatoging your weight loss.  You are the one that needs to do this and you are the only one stopping yourself.”

I look down trying to avoid eye contact.  Ugh.

You are probably right.