Bouncing around on Tumblr is this image:
Interesting! This refers mostly to Operation Beautiful, which I’ve supported since it started. Operation Beautiful is all about encouraging positive self talk and messages to others.
I think there is a lot of negative self-talk that goes on in women’s minds. All day long we berate ourselves, compare ourselves, and generally address ourselves with a negative mindset. I do it. All the time. If you are a woman, you probably do it too.
The negative self-talk is hardly ever addressed in our culture (despite advertising being built on the idea that we are not good enough and therefore need more products) so the idea behind the Operation Beautiful movement is a positive thing for younger girls who are developing their self-esteem.
However, this cartoon made me think twice about the references to weight and fat in those positive post-it notes. It does have a point.
Fat is a dirty word.
We use it as a dirty word.
I’ve always hated when I say “I’m fat” and someone tries to convince me otherwise. “Oh, you aren’t fat!” I never know what to say to those people because I’m not insulting myself – I literally am fat. Does refuting an obvious fact makes someone feel better? For me it just feels awkward.
I am fat. I am okay with that. I still want to be healthier so I can live a long life and have lots of babies, but being fat isn’t the end of the world for me. I’m still awesome. I wear bikinis sometimes. I wear cute clothes. I’m not gross. People find me upbeat and friendly and enjoy being around me. Just because I’m fat doesn’t mean I can’t be a whole lot of other awesome things.
Fat in itself isn’t negative. It’s not an insult and we should stop using it like an insult.
Fat is a descriptive word, not a bad word.
One of my favorite responses on tumblr said this: “Reject the idea that one must be beautiful to have self-worth; that women are not interesting if they are not attractive and pretty. Call it ‘no diet talk’ instead of ‘no fat talk’.”
Agreed. Diet talk needs to end. It’s the constant barrage of diet talk that has ruined a lot of women’s lives and self-esteem. Let’s end that please.
I can definitely get behind the concept of no diet talk. Let’s stop telling ourselves we are unworthy because of the number on a scale or because we ate too much at our last meal. Let’s stop telling ourselves we are worth more if we eat less calories or skip an extra helping. Those concepts do nothing to nourish us and help us live our best lives.
What are your thoughts on the word fat? Is it a dirty or negative word for you?