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It’s Not About Me

April 17, 2013 by Mary

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Somehow I missed, or simply forgot, a very important life less: it’s not about me.

It’s not about me.

It’s not about me.

It’s not about me.

That’s my new mantra. I’ve been saying it to myself a lot today.

I think over the last few years I’ve completely lost sight of the fact that most stuff is simply not about me. I’ve gotten way too sensitive, self-absorbed, and narcissistic. It’s in no way a good thing and I’m realizing how it poorly affects a lot of the relationships I have. 

So I’m going to try to remember that it’s not about me when I’m feeling hurt over things that aren’t personal. And when I’m And just in my every day life. Because generally, even though my instinct is to think the opposite, it’s really not about me.

That rambly self-realization is something I’m going to work on. Perhaps writing a blog about my life and having social media followers and that doesn’t help. Oops.

Side note/speaking about not me: The DietBet Challenge is up to 40 players and $1,000!! That’s amazing! There is still 6 days til it starts so I hope more people join and it’s a community of us doing it rather than just me. It’s not about me, remember? ;)

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  1. Brian @ New Me and You says

    April 17, 2013 at 7:08 pm

    That’s true, social media definitely makes people more narcissistic. That doesn’t mean it has to, though. And hey, don’t be so hard on yourself, you seem like you’re a pretty good person.

    • Mary says

      April 17, 2013 at 9:34 pm

      Definitely. I think blogging about my life and having social media followers has definitely contributed to this in my own life. Too much inward focus has not been positive for me. You’re right though, those things don’t have to have that effect.

      And thanks! I think I’m pretty decent, but even good people have flaws. It’s never bad to recognize flaws and work on improving. Self-improvement is always good! :)

  2. Jody - Fit at 55 says

    April 17, 2013 at 8:06 pm

    YES! I have a hard time to Mary – it is not about me – always a hard lesson!

  3. Kim says

    April 18, 2013 at 3:01 pm

    I have to remind myself that sometimes, too. As I’ve gotten older it has gotten a little easier but still a daily challenge!

  4. Lyn says

    April 18, 2013 at 5:46 pm

    That’s a great mantra to live by. When we are having a hard time ourselves I’ve learnt that to focus on someone else’s issues and help them actually helps myself feel better about me

  5. Kassie says

    April 20, 2013 at 4:58 pm

    Your blog is so great. I’m just starting out blogging. I’m 18. Please check it out and possibly follow it? Also, tips would be awesome, too. Here it is:

  6. Kassie says

    April 20, 2013 at 4:59 pm

    Your blog is so great. I’m just starting out blogging. I’m 18. Please check it out and possibly follow it? Also, tips would be awesome, too. Here it is:
    http://fromhuskytohottie.blogspot.com/

  7. Amy Renold says

    April 21, 2013 at 7:56 am

    I believe you have done greatly lately with this realization, and in that way I would like to congratulate you in any way possible. Be careful, though, as some cases lead to extreme altruism. Just be patient with yourself, learn to accept circumstances, and always retain that healthy self-image.

  8. MIz says

    April 22, 2013 at 7:08 am

    SO MUCH LOVE TO YOU—wheres your “IT’S MY BIRTHDAY B*TCHES!!” post? ;-)

    • Mary says

      April 22, 2013 at 12:14 pm

      It happened …. now. ;)

  9. Viv says

    April 22, 2013 at 12:10 pm

    Hi Mary, just wanted to add here….I couldn’t agree with you more. I’m not sure that social media is really the culprit, I think a lot of what society values plays a big factor in the “about me” mentality, honestly. I say this when I look at my weight loss blog that I just started, and every sentence starts with “I.” Ha! But….we are after all, chronicling our journey so what else could it start with I guess.

    I also wanted to say thank you for starting this dietbet. I’d never even heard of this, and I am super excited. I just started using this site called habitforge.com to try and establish a new (good) habit, and it keeps me accountable because you have to check in – so far its working. I’m hoping this will do the same thing for me, because I didn’t last a week, and I have to learn how to last a lifetime. And I just found your blog last week, and love your attitude! :)

    • Mary says

      April 22, 2013 at 12:14 pm

      Good points Viv!

      I’m super excited that you joined the DietBet. It will definitely keep us on track for the month. :)

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