I’m still thinking about the discussion yesterday from my post and comments about making things non-negotiable or “restrictive.” I’ve never done that with food, never really done a diet (Weight Watchers for four weeks doesn’t count in my head as a diet for when I did it) because I’ve always thought I would fail at it so why bother with the effort. This wasn’t even my thought, but people have always told me that being restrictive in food is too hard/ it just can’t be done. They warn, “Eventually you will stop and regain all the weight again!” These people remind me of the Christians that threaten non-believers with the fire and brimstone. If I go on a diet I will eventually meet an untimely end in donuts and potato chips because I will have to eat them one day when I finally cave! Yeah, that argument isn’t making much sense to me either.
I’m not saying right now that I plan on doing this. I’m just contemplating it for now. Food and my brain have such a terribly broken relationship that I am going to have to ponder this a bit further.
I want to share the quote that Sophy shared yesterday:
“What are you committed to in your life? Waking up with the sun? Meditating in the morning? Exercising daily? No longer lashing out at your family? Removing refined sugars/red meat/etc. from your diet?
Whatever it is, check in and see how committed you REALLY are.
And, know this: 99% is a bitch. 100% is a breeze.
Let’s say you decide that meditating EVERY day will be your new ritual. You’ve done the research, see the benefits and decide to go for it. (Good decision, btw.) Now, if you have to think about whether or not you’re going to honor that commitment every day, there’s NO way you’re going to honor it. IM-POSS-UH-BLE.
You’re gonna have that little whiney voice pop in that says something along the lines of: “Oh! You deserve a little more sleep this morning. Plus, it’s just a day. You deserve a day off. And those peeps who are so committed are way too rigid anyway. Relax. Be flexible.”
So, figure out what daily practices define your destiny and then make your commitments to those rituals NON-NEGOTIABLE. Period. (Make that an exclamation point.
Seriously. Try it out. It may sound harsh but it’s REALLY liberating. Frees up so much energy when you don’t need to think about whether today’s the day you’ll break. :)”
I did decide one thing yesterday about making things non-negotiable.
EXERCISE is a non-negotiable.
For me it is something I have to do to stay healthy. And my “workout 3x a week” just isn’t cutting it. It is too easy for me to not plan to go certain days. I will say on Monday that I need to workout but then remember a tv show I want to watch during my workout time and suddenly it is Friday and I’ve haven’t worked out for the week. In that kind of situation I am still thinking in my head “I need to workout 3 times this week! Good thing there are three days left!” Maybe I workout all three days. Maybe I don’t.
So daily exercise is now my first non-negotiable. I can no longer talk myself out of it because it has to happen. I will no longer have to spend the half hour or so arguing with myself trying to decide if I really want to go to the gym that day. I won’t be wasting time thinking about whether I should go today or just wait until tomorrow. I just have to do it. Daily exercise is non-negotiable!!