Sometimes I find myself dwelling on the negative aspects of life more than I should.
It’s hard not to do this at times since negative situations can become consuming as you try to navigate your way out of the negativity. Once you do this a lot it simply becomes a habit – you seek out the more negative aspect and run the thoughts over and over in your mind. I know for me it unfortunately became a habit after many years.
As a small example, after a great first conversation with someone new for hours after I’ll remember the one thing I said wrong. Instead of dwelling on the positive aspects of the conversation I remember the one thing I could have expressed better.
This happens with bigger situations and areas of my life. I can definitely get caught up on thinking about the wrong things. Do you do this too?
Last night I went to a new Bible study and the main takeaway I had from the night was simply something someone else said when talking about the main information. She said, “Dwell on the positive.”
For some reason, I’d never thought about this. I do try to see the positive sides of situations but I don’t dwell on them. I use them to get me out of my negative head space temporarily but I let my mind drift back to the negative as if I could fix them by re-thinking them.
Do I dwell on the positive? Nope.
I’m going to try doing this from now on. After all, there is always a bright side to every situation. That is what I want to focus on and dwell on.
There is always a bright side.
- You ended a relationship? You can have time to work on yourself and find a new relationship with someone awesome!
- You were injured and can’t workout? You can use your time to learn more about healthy nutrition and
- You lost your job? You can learn new skills and do something new that you’ve always wanted to do!
- Your house burned down? You survived and you can go buy all new things!
It’s hard to see the bright side in big situations like that because at the time they seem all-consuming and negative. However there is always something positive there. Often it’s just a lesson that you needed to learn but that in itself is positive because it means you are alive and growing.
By dwelling on the positive aspect you can change your perspective on the situation and make it a better experience. That’s my plan at least!
Help Dwelling on the Positive
As I continue to work on this in my own life I plan to read books about positive thinking and cultivating positivity in my life. I always find reading a few books on a topic helps cement it in my mind and make it easier to make part of my daily life.
If you also want to cultivate positivity, try the following books!
By dwelling on the positive aspect you can change your perspective on the situation and make it a better experience.
Do you try to dwell on the positive?